The word forgiveness is defined as the act of excusing an offender or a wrongdoer who has committed a mistake. Synonyms of the word forgiveness include, pardoning, condonation, exculpation among others. Other authorities have defined forgiveness as the compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive. However, confusion surrounds what really is involved with forgiveness. To forgive is not to acknowledge that things are fine and later return to offensive situations and is not also absolute love without any limits but should be full of accountability. In additional, it may be suggested that to forgive does not necessarily mean that you accept the offenders evil behavior. During our lifetimes, we have engaged with several people as business partners, relatives and friends and sometimes we end up been hurt in one way or another. We always remember the times we have been slandered, injured, falsely accused, cheated or maligned in some way. The depth of pain sometimes leaves a deep scar (depression) on our soul that we feel them to be un-forgivable (Mckenna, 126). God gives us much guidance when it comes to forgiveness. According to the bible, we forgive persons because we have been forgiven by God; we also forgive in obedience to God. In addition, we forgive others to gain control of our lives from hurt emotions and so that we wont become bitter and besmirch those around us. Sometimes it becomes difficult to forgive those people who wrong us. The pain is so much to bear and hatred fills our soul. It therefore becomes easy to act how we feel rather than act according to the virtue. This typically leads to the likelihood of someone on the edge of not forgiving others since he or she is filled with bitterness. On the other hand, bitterness has been linked to stress-related diseases by medical researching institute. Forgiving others leads to liberation of the spirit and emotions as one is freed from the bondage. It can be seen as a way of submitting and being obedient to God and that only God will heal our injured souls. F
orgiveness is a process and most of us struggle to attain it. This has been observed in some people who have undergone abusive lives full of trauma, for example rape. Such people need time to heal as it is only God who will give them the divine power of healing. For each one of us, the will to forgive is therefore a divine one that comes from God at His chosen time. This act is between us and God and we only forgive persons face-to-face when asked to do so by those people we hurt. Medical doctors, church leaders, counselors and relatives should encourage those people on the journey of healing, reassuring them encouragement words and shedding light in their future. This in addition include giving them a shoulder to cry on, fighting for their rights and most importantly seeing that justice has prevailed in their cases. Apart from biblical, the need of forgiveness can be explained under the umbrella of psychological. In psychological, forgiveness analyzes the feelings or attitudes of the person forgiving the offender and how the two parties benefits. The definition of forgiveness in psychology is the most comprehensively formulated and clearly articulated as it provides the framework of quantitatively measuring the degree of interpersonal forgiveness in behavioral and cognitive spheres. By definition, forgiveness is suggested to be the action of conquering the negative effect followed by judgment of the offender. Since forgiveness is a process, we should allow justice to prevail and not stop on the way after maybe viewing the offender with compassion or feeling sorry for them. Their sins should be punished for a health community. The perspective of forgiveness in psychology is divided into several parts. The forgiver who have endured deep wound eventually becomes bitter. The offended party has a moral right to resentment but overcomes it eventually nonetheless. The response of forgiveness accrues both compassion and love. The loving response occurs notwithstanding the realization that there is no obligation to love the offender.