First of all, an abusive family background could lead a person to be involved in domestic violence. Family members are the first people we contribute our relationship with, it is hard to deny that we got great influence by our family, and the influence will make a huge impact in a person adulthood. Family background plays a large role in shaping our identity, behavior, beliefs, and values, all these determine how a person treat the people around them. And now lets look at how abusive background affect a person becoming an abuser. Domestic violence more often occurs in the family background with multi problems such as poverty, violence, substance abuse, and unemployment. Those people who cannot deal with the problems, will suffer a lots form depression, and a small issue could trigger abusive, or even worse, domestic violence towards their family members. Abusers family background of domestic violence affects their perceptions about family relationships; conflict, argue, and fighting are considered as normal, and thinks that this is how a family should be like. Several studies suggest that an individual who had experienced of witnessing violence toward siblings or parents in childhood may be as harmful as the experience of vic
timization itself (Rosenbaum and O’Leary, 1981). Some studies have also suggested that people who see violence in their homes when they were young may view such behaviour as an appropriate means of resolving conflict and also see violence as an integral part of a close relationship (Groves et al., 1993; Jaffe et al., 1988; Straus, 1992. Besides that, studies also shown that domestic violence will cause the victim performed low self-esteem, less able to manage personal problems as well. An abuser who has an abusive background would think that violence is an answer to all problems, as he or she might have already formed a negative perception about family. It is always hard to change someone mindset about something, and even worse is, it is something negative. Abusers who experienced domestic violence in childhood would learn and absorb violence, and think that it is the only way to solve those problems on interpersonal relationships, will lead them to a negative attitude towards the family. Some interesting researches have pointed out that people will usually do the same thing as their parents did before, and this is actually all about the attitude that people learnt and observed from their parents start from a very young age.